When To Leave Things Behind

I have chosen to leave certain things behind, and although I know where I can find them , I also know that life is sometimes a one-way trip. But I am not afraid of anything and I do not regret anything, because I know what is worth fighting for and what battles are useless.

How many things have you given up and left behind in life? Sometimes it’s hard to realize that everything and everyone we’ve left behind is like smoke disappearing out of a window, no matter how hard we try for them.

This can be difficult for us to accept because of the emotional energy we put into the people and events in our lives. Until the disappointment strikes, until the moment when we realize that the wave of life is not completely balanced. That we have been left with nothing to give and have not received anything; that the dream was a nightmare.

Have we done anything wrong? Maybe we should regret all our actions? He who does not fight for his dream is not brave. He who does not fight for his hopes and illusions will never reach the moon. Feel proud of that fashion, but remember that sometimes it is smartest and wisest to give up.

Some battles are useless…

Let us begin by stating one important thing: No one knows whether a battle or a dream is useless until reality, in all its bitterness, strikes.

It does not matter if we are talking about a job, a friendship or a relationship. Life is a long chain of moments that test us, of chapters we should enjoy, fight for and learn from. For learning is the vital key that supports our existence.

It is possible that you have made some mistakes and that you have now given up and left many things behind. Should you regret them? Not at all. To regret a mistake is to nurture the bitterness and miss the opportunity to learn something.

Mistakes must be accepted, understood, processed and integrated into what we call our “repository of experience”. And if these experiences give us bad memories, we should not nurture or encourage these feelings. Unpleasant memories should be exchanged for what is here and now – for the happiness of the day.

No battle is useless because it is to experience life and gain experience. However, if something does not benefit us, it is important to know when to leave it behind. We need to know when a person or activity does not deserve what we give or suffer.

When should we leave something behind?

It may seem like an obvious question, but it really is not. That is why we should take a closer look at it. In fact, it is likely that many of us right now have hopes and projects that do not deserve our time and energy.

Let us analyze this over the following points:

1. The power of false hopes

Sometimes we make the mistake of blaming others for encouraging our false hopes, when in fact that responsibility falls on our shoulders. Some people put their hopes in that dream job, when in fact they may not be prepared or qualified for it.

There are always people who put their feelings and anxiety on a person who has never even indicated that they feel anything for them. It’s okay to dream, but we must always maintain objectivity, balance and perspective.

2. Emotional cost

Emotions are really a very powerful and dangerous engine. Sometimes it makes us invest everything, to our last breath, for what we hold dear – for the highly valued dream.

We do not see the limits and we open our hearts without reading the instruction manual. The manual that should have directly told: “Be wise, look after yourself, protect your self-esteem”. Even so, we do not always listen.

We should learn to be more receptive, to tell ourselves that we also deserve to receive. Does that friendship offer you support, participation, respect and recognition ? Keep it then.

Does that relationship bring you happiness? Does it cherish your hopes? Does it invest in you as you invest in it? Does your partner give things to you just as you have had to give things to him or her from time to time? If not, analyze this and make a decision.

We should give up and leave behind everything and everyone who reaches for selfishness. Who do not recognize us and who consume our strength and our hopes instead of enriching us. Go ahead, close doors and leave them behind. You know very well where they are, but you also know where you want to be.