What Happens When We Judge Others?
Believe it or not, but judging others is deeply habitual. This often turns out to be counterintuitive because we often ask others to stop judging our actions and behaviors. We judge and are judged constantly, without any way of avoiding it.
But the damage that judgment can cause is something we must think about and reflect on. We need to take a look at ourselves, look at ourselves and stop investing so much time in seeing what others are doing, how they are doing it and why.
How many times have you been misjudged? Certainly many. That’s why you need to avoid judging other people. Respect what others do and decide, because maybe one day you will end up doing what you are now criticizing. Then it will be you who will be judged.
Your perspective is not the only one
We often do not allow ourselves to put ourselves in the other person’s situation and we do not put ourselves in their shoes. We think that our point of view is the only right one, which prevents us from looking beyond it and understanding other, different perspectives.
Why are you so sure that your way of looking at things is the right one? Allow yourself to doubt, to accept that both positions may be right and that this does not make one of them worse or better. You’re not always right. You can be wrong, and judging the actions of others can cause misunderstandings.
It is impossible to know the whole story that another person has left behind. That is why we should not judge his or her actions.
Think of yourself. How many people are there who know all the difficulties you have gone through and who have influenced your actions and your behavior?
Try not to look for better or worse perspectives; they are all valid! What inspires rejection in you today will seem attractive tomorrow.
Open your mind and allow yourself to discover new perspectives, with which you can broaden your worldview. Start being an open and tolerant person. This will make you a better person and allow you to understand others better.
Your actions define you
When you judge a person, you define yourself. You can give your opinion, but criticizing or not understanding the person will not help him. Are you doing something good for the person? What do you really hope to achieve?
When we judge, we really have no other reason than to make others see the world as we do. But differences are not a negative thing; they are something that helps us open our minds when faced with different situations. You can not hope that others will think or act in the same way as you. As we have already mentioned, there is nothing better or worse.
Judging someone else causes great harm to him. Think of a situation where others have judged you. Did they help you? Did they make you feel better? Were you happier when you chose to walk the path they required?
Judging hurts, and that’s why we need to be very careful and stop doing it. We believe that we help when in reality we cause harm. We think we are guiding when we confuse the person instead.
More than the eye sees
It is clear that sometimes we do not see the whole truth. Each person is a world in itself. You yourself have, as we have already mentioned, situations and experiences that you have gone through and that have caused suffering and taught you life lessons, but only you know and understand it.
Others also have this. They have a life that has been good or maybe bad. We do not want to justify their actions; what we want is to judge them. People will have their reasons, and even though we do not agree , we must respect them. Maybe tomorrow it will be us who do exactly the thing we question.
If you are a person who tends to judge others, first think about how it feels when others judge you.
During our lives , everything that affects us changes the way we look at things. What we saw as right a few years ago may seem wrong today.
Be flexible and never judge. You can air your opinion, but without trying to get people to go through and see life the same way you do. Especially since your perspective is not the only right one.
