Separation For Emotional Freedom
What does the word “separation” mean to you? Does it send a feeling of weakness or even emotional selfishness ? If so, this is far from the truth. The word separation, in connection with personal growth, indicates inner strength that we can all benefit from developing.
Exercising separation does not mean completely getting rid of everything that is important to us, breaking relationships or ending friendships with people in our circle of acquaintances. Separation simply means knowing how to love, appreciate and involve yourself in situations from a more balanced and healthy point of view, thus freeing yourself from the exaggerated ties that keep us down and cut our wings.
Emotional freedom is giving ourselves the choice to live more honestly in accordance with our needs and offering ourselves the opportunity to grow; to move forward consciously for a reason. It means living without hurting anyone and without putting up a fence around us, which binds us with chains of passionate, daughterly or even maternal love.
How can we practice healthy separation?
1. Take responsibility for yourself
No one will remove every stone that comes your way, just as no one will breathe for you or offer to bear your shame or feel your pain. You are the author of your own life and every step you take.
The first rule you should keep in mind when practicing segregation is therefore to be aware of the fact that you are completely responsible for yourself.
Do not let your own happiness depend on anyone else. Do not think that it is necessary to find a partner who loves you or to always get recognition from your family to be happy in this life.
If the barometer of your satisfaction and happiness lies in others supporting you, you will find nothing but suffering. They will rarely manage to take care of all your needs.
Nurture your own happiness, feel responsible and mature, be aware of your decisions and their consequences, choose for yourself and never let your well-being depend entirely on someone else’s heart.
2. Live in the present, accept and come to terms with reality
In this life nothing lasts forever, nothing remains; everything flows, chooses its own path and follows the natural order that we sometimes find difficult to accept. People are almost always focused on what is happening in the past, and this is in some ways a heavy burden that is changing ours now.
That family quarrel, that trauma, that loss, the sentimental failure or the frustration we can not overcome. All of these are anchors that weigh us down, fasten chains around our feet and capture our soul.
This focus on the past is toxic and very unhealthy because it prevents us from moving forward and reaching our potential.
Accept and learn to forgive even though it is difficult. It will make you feel freer and help you focus on the really important truths, the ones that are “here and now”, in the current situation where you have real opportunities. What are you waiting for?
Embrace your and others’ freedom
Accepting freedom is the fullest, most essential and healthiest way to enjoy life; to understand its incredible breadth.
However, it means establishing personal bonds with other people because this also forms part of our personal growth. Knowing how to love and how to receive love is part of our freedom.
Separation, however, suggests that you should never take responsibility for the lives of others, just as others should not impose their principles on you.
Intense bands are never healthy. We think, for example, of the obsessed parents who go too far in protecting their children and preventing them from maturing; from safely moving forward as they explore the world.
4. Realize and accept that losses are inevitable
We return to the same idea: accept that nothing lasts forever in this life. Life, relationships, and even material things come to an end and disappear like steam through an open window or water flowing between your fingers.
Some people will leave us, our children will grow up, some friendships will be broken and some loves will leave the warmth of your hand. Accepting this is part of the process of separation, and therefore we must learn to accept and respond to it with integrity and strength. However, what will never change is your ability to love, and you should always start with yourself.
