Learn To Be Your Own Ally
It may seem strange, but there are many who behave as if they were their own worst enemies. Their inner dialogue is both aggressive and ruthless. However, it does not have to be this way, because you can become your own ally.
A person with such a negative inner dialogue as we mentioned above has probably grown up in a restrictive environment where the person has been blamed for both. The person can therefore often suffer from feelings of guilt. The parents probably thought that the child had to be broken down in order for them to get a proper upbringing. Some parents see it as a success that the child becomes submissive. There are also many schools that have this approach.
What happens then is that the person takes on all this criticism and all these punishments, and learns to see himself as a person who is always wrong. As a person who never does anything right. As if everything the person thinks or feels is unacceptable. If you are, or have been, in such a situation, it is time for you to start becoming your own ally, your own friend.
Being your own enemy seems different to different people. It turns out for the most part as we have described above, where the person has a ruthless inner critic. The person constantly believes that he is making mistakes, and has a small inner voice that complains about everything.
Sometimes that voice is more indirect and it makes you behave strangely or insecurely in certain types of situations. You notice that you behave in this way and then you complain about yourself afterwards.
Other times, you will panic if you are succeeding at something. You become terrified as soon as you get the chance to succeed, and you end up adopting behaviors that sabotage your success. It’s like living with your own worst enemy.
Being your own ally means that you see yourself and treat yourself with respect and consideration. It also means that you give yourself support and that you motivate yourself, just as you would have done with a good friend. However, this is almost impossible for some people. But why then?
This is mostly because they have a misconception about what relationship they should have with themselves. For example, they believe that they must be hard on themselves and that not being this is a sign of weakness. They think they are evolving by treating themselves badly.
There is also a misconception that one should not be one’s own ally, as this is a sign of narcissism. Some see it as a virtue, or a sign of humility, that one depresses oneself.
In the depths of your consciousness there is something that stands out. You feel that you are betraying others by being your own ally, and that this is the beginning of some kind of moral decline.
We therefore want to make it clear that you are not irresponsible just because you treat yourself well. We will all need things as we grow and mature. Things that help us grow and achieve our goals. However, this does not mean that you have an extreme approach.
Being your own ally simply means that you have a good attitude towards yourself. It means that you accept and respect yourself, and that you understand that everyone can make mistakes.
In fact, mistakes always teach us something, and we should therefore not criticize ourselves for these mistakes. You can feel bad about making a mistake, but in the end it leads to something good.
If we can not count on ourselves, then how can we count on someone else? We need allies to walk the path of life, and the first thing you should do is become your own ally so that you can appreciate what you are and what you do. You must forgive yourself for being as human as everyone else. Life will be much better when you love yourself.
