Highly Sensitive Person With An Emotionally Careless Family

Sometimes a highly sensitive person has to grow up in an emotionally careless family. It may be that neither parents nor siblings share that personality trait. In many cases, it makes them feel misunderstood.

A highly sensitive person is very emotional. Being born into and growing up in an emotionally drained environment makes them feel abandoned. Not getting emotional approval makes them think there is something wrong with them.

Carl Jung described a highly sensitive person as someone who processes his reality differently due to an inherent and special sensitivity. Therefore, there is nothing negative about the approximately 20% of the population. In fact, research has shown that their brains are more unique.

In fact, a highly sensitive person has a genetic variation called ADRA2B. This particularity affects a very special kind of neurotransmitter called norepinephrine. This is the reason why they have a more sensitive nervous system which translates into more empathy and an ability to connect and respond to stimuli.

There are many families who know how to handle it and who support their highly sensitive children. But an emotionally careless family can hurt a child.

An emotionally careless family is not only unaware of the needs of their loved ones. They also choose to ignore their needs, indulge in or even punish them for it. This can leave deep marks.

Highly sensitive children suffer from this. They are not allowed to understand or value their wonderful abilities. Since childhood, they learn to assume that they must protect themselves from the outside world. They try to turn a place within themselves into a shelter where they can be invisible. In this protection, they can suppress their emotions so that they are not punished for them.

People do not know that if you ignore the needs of a highly sensitive person, you are committing abuse. According to  Dr. Jonice Webb, many parents see sensitivity as a trait that needs to be corrected. For them, sensitivity is a weakness. Therefore, they punish or compare these children with their siblings or friends who in their opinion are more capable.

This is why it is necessary to understand certain key factors about hypersensitive children and their upbringing.

Either you are born with it or not. As we mentioned at the beginning, hypersensitivity is the result of a small genetic change. This change makes the person more sensitive to pain as well as visual and auditory stimuli. Special types of clothing can cause comfort as well as television sounds and talking to several people at once.

None of this can change. Therefore, it can hurt them severely if they are punished for their personality or for things they feel.

Emotionally careless families send a clear message to their children: they are different and there is something negative about them that they need to fix. It’s like you were born to love music and art and someone tells you that what you like is stupid. This type of parent can even forbid their children to listen to music or draw and paint.

High sensitivity is not a weakness but a gift that must be understood.

Emotions and the way each person understands and relates to their surroundings cannot be punished or banned. Doing so can have fatal consequences.

• Low self-esteem
• Difficulty forming strong relationships
• Refrain from social events
• More sensitive to bullying
• Difficulty accepting their own identity and developing a mature and confident personality.

Is it possible to overcome the effects of their emotionally careless family? A highly sensitive person is forced at some point in his life to adopt certain things. First of all, they must realize the undeniable truth: there is nothing wrong or punishable with them at all. Experiencing the world differently is a fantastic gift.

In fact, this talent  is like seeing the world through a piece of glass. The colors and glitters are wonderful and fascinating but the effect of the light is always painful.

Highly sensitive people are not weak. In fact, they have a lot of potential. To raise their self-esteem, self-acceptance and learn to deal with their emotions are without a doubt the best tools.

It is also important to understand that most people do not perceive reality as a highly sensitive person. There are many ways for people to find pleasure in their reality. The important thing is to respect and understand others without sacrificing the magic we have within us,  even if we have an emotionally careless family.