Do Not Judge Yourself For Your Past, You No Longer Live There

How many times a day do you think about the past? How much time do you spend analyzing what you did, what you did not do, or what you could have done better? Above all, how much destructive criticism do you include in your thoughts about a time that no longer exists? This is not healthy. Do not judge yourself for what you did before, because then you did not know what you know today. You no longer live in your past.

You probably have a habit of often remembering your past experiences, actions and decisions. But unfortunately, you do not tend to do it in a nice way. Instead, you probably assume an extremely ruthless perspective more often than not. In fact, you examine your past with a magnifying glass. In addition, you highlight each of your failures through a cruel and unrealistic filter of perfectionism.

Why do you not have more compassion for yourself? Well, the truth is, you’re not really aware of the harm you’re doing to yourself. You tend to think that by critically analyzing your past you are learning something from it. You probably think that by constantly repenting or blaming yourself for what happened, you are paying off some form of outstanding debt. But you will begin to learn much more when you stop judging your former self and reconcile yourself to it.

Do not judge yourself for your past

Do not blame yourself

Debt is your ego’s most powerful tool. It really keeps you anchored in the past. You may feel guilty for hurting someone, or for letting yourself be hurt or for not making better decisions. You constantly wonder how you could have acted in certain situations and blame yourself for not doing better.

But always remember that you did the best you could just before you fell into the debt trap. You really could not have acted differently with the knowledge you had then. What you did was the only thing you could do considering what you knew at the time, who you were and the circumstances you were in.

Now, in retrospect and with experience, it would of course be easy for you to find alternatives. But clarity always comes after learning, not earlier.

In fact, if you can now look at the past from a different angle, it’s because of your past mistakes. For this reason, you should celebrate your awareness. Under no circumstances should you fall into the trap of blaming yourself. Because today you know what you did not know then, and then you did what you could.

Do not regret your past

Repentance is another feeling that holds you captive. Of course, it is perfectly acceptable to experience remorse if you hurt someone, or even yourself, as long as you follow it up with appropriate action. In other words, ask for forgiveness, correct the damage, and learn from it.

There is never any point in denying that something has happened. Do not put any energy into getting frustrated and wishing it had never happened. You can not change it. Instead, remember that all of these experiences have taught you lessons. In fact, they have made you who you are today. It’s your story; it contains all the mistakes and failures that have brought you here. Therefore, be grateful for what you have learned and move on.

Do not judge yourself

Finally, remember that every day you have the opportunity to reinvent yourself. This is because your past does not define who you are today. Also, if you make a mistake, it does not make you a failure or a bad person.

Did you try but failed? That does not mean you will fail again. If you were previously selfish or could not set boundaries, it does not mean that it is in your nature and can not be changed. Stop defining and judging yourself for who you were. Do not judge yourself for a past you no longer live in.

Do not judge yourself, reconcile with yourself

In the end, it’s time to look at your former self with compassion. Without a doubt, then you were hurt and allowed it to happen. In all likelihood, if you could go back in time with the knowledge you now possess, you would change many of your past actions. But you must forgive yourself, understand yourself, and look back kindly on your former self.

Remember that experiences are above all lessons and not sentences. Integrating your story and everything that happened in it is important for you to be able to create a new path for yourself. Debt, remorse and constant self-criticism attach you to the painful moments and condemn you to live permanently in a time that has long passed.

Reconcile with yourself and let yourself move on. You are ready and can be another person. You no longer live in your past. Integrate it, learn from it and move on with your life.